We listen and let the psychologist judge.
One of the current viral trends on TikTok has couples confessing secrets to each other on camera.
The videos begin with both people saying, “We listen and don’t judge” in unison before revealing previously tacit knowledge they had hidden from the other person.
Co-workers and family members have picked up the trend, but most videos involve couples sharing their secrets.
However, the “non-judgement” part seems to be more of a prayer than a reality in some.
In some of the most viral videos, couples have admitted to everything from unplugging their internet router to get their partner’s attention to faking orgasms and watching TV instead.
In one particularly hilarious video, a married couple goes back and forth with revelations, trying hard to keep their reactions under control.
But at the end of the two-minute clip, the wife, Jamie, announces: “You’re done,” before she leaves and her husband, Dave, laughs.
Many people have shared strong opinions about the trend in the comments, but psychologist Avigail Lev is mostly “ambivalent” about it.
“The trend seems to be promoting honesty because you’re telling your partner or friend everything you’ve done,” Lev told Today.com.
“But it’s not as honest or transparent, because most of it is stuff they’ve done right behind each other’s backs.”
While some of the admissions are small – like stealing a child’s potato chips or sneaking ice cream – others are more disturbing – like faking headaches and taking bathroom breaks to hide from each other and lying about getting botox.
“I think the dilemma here is that some things that people are doing, I wouldn’t recommend saying it any other way. I would just recommend that you don’t do it,” she says. “You’d better not lie.” at first, so you don’t have to confess.”
Viewers will never really know which stories are true and which are clickbait, but Lev worries that people could be hurt by the videos.
“They’re hearing things they didn’t know their partner was doing, and that’s not a fun thing to witness while you’re live on TikTok,” she noted.
However, if the admission is not harmful, these videos can be a fun way to communicate honestly and catch up with your partner.
“When you can bring humor to it, it always makes it easier to express yourself,” Dylan Reese told Today.com after going viral with one of the healthier versions of the trend.
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